My big dumb fear today? Who is My Husband (and this could easily be "Who is anybody?". Is he 1)indeed who I think he is, 2) a mixture of who I think he his and qualities and details I have placed on him, 3)a projection of qualities I want/think he possesses which he may or may not possess, or 4)one member of the two person team of Wilmington goofballs?